September Songs: The Good News about Marriage in the Later Years
Author: Maggie Scarf
An unexpected—and surprisingly positive— exploration of the benefits awaiting married baby boomers in their "bonus" years from the New York Times-bestselling author of Intimate Partners.
In September Songs, journalist and author Maggie Scarf finds that marriage has undergone some fascinating changes since she wrote her bestselling Intimate Partners. Over the course of the twentieth century, thirty years of life have been added to normal human life expectancy—what the author calls "the bonus years." This means that couples will often live together for years after their children have left home, and perhaps well past retirement. This extra time is bringing change to our long-term relationships, especially marriage.
In a series of intimate interviews, Scarf delves into the lives of couples married for more than two decades and discerns encouraging new insights about marriage. Seen through the eyes of these baby boomers as they move into this new phase of life, we hear—in the couples' own words—how they survived the bumps together and learned to balance their needs with those of their partners. Scarf reveals that, in many ways, men and women in long-term marriages are far happier and more fulfilled in their relationships today than when they were younger.
A compelling and human portrait of the long-term emotional, psychological, and physical benefits of a lasting commitment to another, September Songs uncovers the challenges and new opportunities couples find to love, cherish, and live alongside each other in the extra years they have together.
The Washington Post - Judith Viorst
Scarf is good. A journalist and the author of several well-received nonfiction books including Intimate Partners and Unfinished Business, she is a probing but tactful questioner, an active listener and even, on occasion, a quasi-therapist. She enriches her material with research on aging and marriage and seeks insight into the marriages of her own interviewees by provocatively asking, "If you were going to give a title to a movie or a book about this time of your life, what do you think it would be?" The answers—"The New Beginning," "Harvest," "Peace" "Life in Bloom"—could convince the most cynical reader that "Grow old along with me!/The best is yet to be" is not a romantic's foolish dream but, for some fortunate couples, a real possibility.
The New York Times - Hilma Wolitzer
[Scarf's] a gifted and discreet interviewer, knowing what to ask and when to back off. Her gently probing questions—about retirement, health, sexual activity, finances, children, religion, disappointments and regret—lead her subjects to some unexpectedly candid answers. They speak with ease, separately and together (in what often seem like twin soliloquies), about their shared histories and their hopes for and concerns about the future.
Publishers Weekly
In this well-researched and eminently readable study, journalist Scarf (Intimate Partners) plunges into the lives of married people between the ages of 50 and 75, inquiring how their partnerships have changed, been renegotiated, reframed and refreshed as increased longevity has added up to three decades to the span of an average marriage. Conducting in-depth interviews with seven couples, the author poses perceptive and challenging questions to her subjects, asking how they have weathered difficulties, affairs, health problems, how they have "disappointed or surprised each other over time" and what are the "major sexual issues that emerge at this time of life." The results, though hardly surprising (financial worries, lack of sexual desire and compromise are all recurring themes), are nonetheless stimulating, not least because these couples are so open, a testament to Scarf's skills as an interviewer. Her case studies are interspersed with chunks of data and interpretations that lend welcome empirical backup to her claims and add authority to this fascinating overview of an unexplored topic that should appeal to couples of all ages. (Sept.)
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.Table of Contents:
1 Lynn and Carl McBride: a gift of time 25
2 Does Divorce Make People Happy? 45
3 Liz and Jeff Dennison: Classmates 69
4 Taking Time Seriously 87
5 Jean and Ned Donaldson: The Simple Life 105
6 Jackie and Steve Winston (1.): Transitioning, a Foot in Each World 131
7 Jackie and Steve Winston (2): Retirement Myths, Retirement Realities 159
8 Claudia and Douglas Hamilton: An Uncertain Future 178
9 Nancy and David Sternberg: In Sickness and in Health 210
Selected References 245
Index 251
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